Being A Friend to Yourself Navigating the Roads of Life For Greater Peace

Are you friends with yourself?

When I reflect on becoming separated from my core friend group over the years, I think the greatest lesson I’ve learned is to be a good friend to myself.

Be kind to yourself

The first step was to be kinder to myself about the way my life has turned out so far. Walking through the thicket of loneliness following high school, I always beat myself up.

“Why didn’t I stay in touch with them more?”

“Why was I so needy with them?”

“Why didn’t I value the friendships more?”

Perhaps you’ve asked yourself similar questions.

But this self-flagellation never made things better. It just made the pain of the loss sting harder. It extended the horizon to the next destination on my journey.

I had to learn to accept the external factors that led to the change in circumstances. I had to let go.

Celebrating new space

This is something I’ve only recently gotten better at, but it was a lesson that took root even way back then.

I had to learn to not just focus on the loss, but to happy for my friends and the new space that opened in my life because of their departure.

Recognizing this made walking alone more bearable.

When I began to look at it as a natural evolution of things, I became a better friend to myself and accepted my new circumstances much more easily.

I hope you’re able to do the same.

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